But I believe you love yourself the right way when you basically stand up for who you are and what you believe, in spite of what anyone else may believe or think about you. I call that “being there for yourself”.
This is what I believe builds confidence and self respect. It begins with you, how you feel about yourself and how you project that in the world.
Take me, for example. I play pool. I know that I’m good at it. I don’t win all the time, and yes, there are people I consider to be better than I am, but I know I’m good. Not because people say I’m good, but because I have confidence in both my knowledge of and ability of the game. Can I be better? Absolutely. I learn something new every time I play. And I am always open to improving my game.
Now I admit, that may be a rather simple analogy to a more complex issue, but I believe confidence, self assurance and self respect are the keys to taking advantage of the opportunities for improvement or change that present themselves in life. That it took 52 years for me to figure this out? Kinda weird.
Theodore Roosevelt also said:
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
And that’s a truth of life. Successful people believe in themselves FIRST. And they take action, doing that which they need to do in order to make things happen. I believe I can (loving yourself) + I know I can (confidence/self assurance) + And I am (taking action) equals success in whatever it is that tickles your fancy, no matter how you slice it.
The bottom line? Don’t buy into any negativity. It’s that simple. Don’t buy the hype. Your self worth has never been determined by the opinions of others, nor will it ever be. It’s determined by you. Basing your self worth on the opinions of others is a determination by you in and of itself, that you’re Ok with allowing others to make that determination for you. People who do this are referred to as “sheeple”.
Are you a “sheeple”?